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Searching For Birthparents...My Progress

>> Saturday, November 14, 2009

Well, looks like I am searching for my birth parents again now. I had done that last year, but we turned up with the wrong names. Now I am willing to try again. I had a different researcher who is from the Yahoo Groups called Texans For Adult Adoptee OBC Access. I am really pleased that she had the names for me the same day. Now all I have to do is to apply for my original birth certificate. I would give the names that I have, but I want to make sure that I do have them correct before I just go out there and make it known. My "birthmother" lives in Rosenburg, TX and my "birthfather" had passed away in 2003. He lived in Trinity, TX. I still do not know if this is them for sure or not. I feel sadden to know that my possible birthfather is gone, but I refuse to let that part get to me until I know for sure.

I am hoping that I will be able to send off for my birth certificate soon, and that I will hear something good back. So how many times will I try since each one costs ten dollars? You know, I am not really sure. I am just ready for it to be over with, or will it ever be over for me? I do not want to be searching for the next ten years, so I guess that I will end up stopping after so many times when I just can not do it anymore. Well, I guess I will let everyone know how it goes whenever I actually get around to sending off for it.


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>> Thursday, November 12, 2009

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LinkFromBlog is a social networking site where you can earn money blogging. I was invited by them to join, so I took the opportunity. I am hoping that I will see some results from a nice looking company. If you are a blogger, then I encourage to try LinkFromBlog. You can buy blog links by clicking on the link provided. I am excited to give this a try and I hope that you will to. You can be a blogger or an advertiser. Bloggers write reviews, and the advertiser gets to display their products or services through the blogger. Hope you will join me.

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The 2 Birds By: Eddie

I thought that I would share a story that Eddie my eight year old wrote. He thought that it would be a good idea to put it on my blog to share with you. Hope you enjoy it.
I did not alter his work.

There is 2 birds sitting in a nest. 1 bird left that was the daddy bird. The baby bird was trying to fly but, it fell and tumbled to the ground but, luckily it didn’t break a bone. The bird reattempted and flew his dad was exploring the swamp. The bird was afraid his dad would have flew into an alligator’s mouth. And the baby bird said ‘’come on this way.’’ and then the baby bird said ’’I will lead you to the nest.’’ he was afraid of being alone in the nest. The 2 birds went past the hills and then past the mountains and past the river and finally to the nest. The baby bird said that he was afraid of going 3,000 feet in the air. And he was finding a new place to explore and the baby bird said ’’let’s go explore the forest’’ and off they went to the forest and saw a snake eating a bird it wasn’t 1 of the 2 birds. It was a mocking bird. And saw a boa constrictor that just choked a black rat. And when he was at the mountains he had to fly 6,000 feet in the air. And he was double scared. And they saw a cottonmouth eat a cotton rat. The were scared to death. They left the forest. the 2 birds went past the swamp and past the hills and past the mountains and past the river and finally to the nest. The baby bird wasn’t scared at the mountains this time!


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Gary McKinnon...U.S. Medal of Honor

>> Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Looks like Gary McKinnon is back in the news again. Last year he was in the process of being extradited to the United States for hacking into the United States government's computers. Gary had claimed that he did not know what he was doing, and said that autism had impaired his judgment. Gary is in the news once again for something that shocked even me. The headlines now read UFO Computer Hacker To Receive U.S. Medal of Freedom.

So here we have a man (with autism) hacking into our computers, and Obama then decides to give him a medal! Here is what President Obama had to say about it:

"If it were not for Gary McKinnon the entire US government computer system could now be in the hands of terrorists! He pointed out how vulnerable our system was to attack from foreign countries. Thanks to Garry we have instituted safety protocols that will prevent terrorists from virtually attacking us!"

Gary is also writing a book called," How I Accidentally Saved The World." It is expected to become a best seller. Gary had this to say:
"I didn't mean to be a hero. I was simply looking for evidence of UFOs

that the US government has been concealing. Who knew that I would save the world at the same time?"

I am still not sure what to think about this one. He did hack into our system, he does have autism, and he is a human being. So what makes him different from any other hacker? He is now free and is having dinner with the President and sleeping in the Lincoln Room at the White House.

I would like to hear your opinions on this one.



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I Love My Mom

>> Monday, November 9, 2009

I wanted to share a few things with you on my little Devin. Last year, he achieved an accomplishments that I just had to share with you. Devin was featured as a weather artist from the Daily Journal. He had drew a house with the sun behind it. For a child in kindergarten, I would say that he did an excellent job. Wish I could scan it for you. It almost looks like a picture that my oldest would draw.

Second and most important was the reason why I wrote this post. He was also entered in The Gum Tree Writing Contest here in our hometown. I am not sure how well he did for the contest, but I had to share this story that he wrote. It is considered a narrative. So here it is for you. First of all, I will write it as he had wrote it. I thought it was cute.

I Love My Mom

My mom drivs a trck.
My mom gos to wrik.
She wriks at Walmrrt.
She clings the flor.
She cooks the best bisciits.
My mom givs my dog a bonn.
My mom givs my dad a drink.
My mom loves me.

Now I will write it as it is supposed to be:

I Love My Mom

My mom drives a truck.
My mom goes to work.
She works at Wal Mart.
She cleans the floor.
She cooks the best biscuits.
My mom gives my dog a bone.
My mom give my dad a drink.
My mom loves me.

I completely laughed until I cried. It was so sweet, but first of all, Dad drives the truck. I do not work, but Devin loves Wal-Mart. Guess he wants me to work at Wal-Mart and clean the floors. Although, he does hate it when I do mop the floors in the house. Make him furious sometimes. I do make him lots of biscuits…the frozen kind…lol. We do not have a dog. Eddie is allergic anyhow. I do give Dad his drinks all the time, so he knows that one for sure. And yes, I do love my baby boy. I hope that you enjoy this little story as much as I do.


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Thinking In Pictures: My Life With Autism Book Review




Temple Gradin is a remarkable women with autism. She is proud to be autistic because it helps her in her work. Temple Gradin has designed one-third of all the livestock- handling facilities in America. She designs equipment so that the animals are kept comfortable during all types of procedures, and she especially likes working with cattle. During college she studied animal science which helped her to understand the behavior’s of the animals she works with.

Temple Gradin is also the author of Thinking In Pictures: and other Reports From My Life With Autism. She also tours the country speaking about autism to others. In her book, she describes her life with autism, work, and the science behind her condition. Temple thinks in pictures in which words are like a second language. She can translate spoken and written words into full-color movies, complete with sound which runs like a VCR tape inside of her visual thinking abilities. She has learned how to draw engineering designs by observing others work that they have done. This made it to where she was able to trace visual images of her imagination at work on to paper as she designed equipment. Slowing down was her key to success when drawing. Tor Temple, she used concrete symbols to understand concepts such as getting along with others. In order for her to make the transition from high school to college she had to act it out by going through an actual door, window or gate. Autistics usually have problems transitioning between routines. In Chapter one she describes situations related to herself and visual thought among autistics in a personal and scientific way.

In Chapter two, Temple describes diagnosing autism and her early years as a child. As explained, diagnosing autism has to start in early childhood by the time the child is two or three, with the most obvious symptoms starting at ages one and two years of age. The child may stiffen up and resists being held and cuddled. They may pull away from you and scream because they are sensitive to touch. The classic symptoms of autism include, but are not limited to no speech, poor eye contact, tantrums, appearance of deafness, no interest in people and constant problem of staring into space.

Because of behavioral criteria being continuously changed, it is hard to diagnose autism. Some consider the autism categories to be true separate entities, and others believe that they lie on an autistic continuum, and there is no definite distinction between them. A child would be labeled autistic if he or she lacked both social relatedness and speech, or had abnormal speech. This is also known as Kanner’s syndrome in which Leo Kanner described as a form of autism in 1943. These children usually learn to talk, but remain severely handicapped because of extremely rigid thinking, poor ability to generalize, and no common sense. They have little or no flexibility of thinking or behavior. For example eating ice cream from a cone could be strange and terrifying for a child because he or she is used to eating it with a spoon. He or she just doesn’t know what to do with it. The lack of common sense refers to learning how to do something, but have no idea of what to do next if something does go wrong.

Those with Asperger’s syndrome tent to be less handicapped than those with Kanner’s autism. They tend to do better of tests of flexible problem-solving. Many of those with Asperger’s syndrome never get fully diagnosed, and often hold jobs and live independently. Sometimes high functioning autism is labeled Asperger’s. Asperger's syndrome child tend to be more clumsy than Kanner’s autism. Disintegrative disorder usually occurs when regression of speech and social behavior is lost after age two when they were once developing normally. Many never regain their speech and have difficulty in caring for a home, so therefore they require supervised living arrangements their entire lives.
“ It appears that at one end of the spectrum, autism is primarily a sensory processing disorder. At the severely impaired sensory processing end, many children may be diagnosed as having disintegrative disorder. At a midpoint along the spectrum, autistic symptoms appear to be caused by equal amounts of cognitive and sensory problems. There can be mild and severe cases at all points along the continuum.

In Chapter three, sensory issues are addressed. Puberty can make sensory issues more difficult because the hormones sensitize and inflame an over aroused nervous system. Medications such as beta-blockers and Clonodine are often helpful because they calm an over aroused sympathetic nervous system. Those with autism having severe sensory problems that sometimes engage in self-injurious behavior such as biting themselves or hitting their heads. Because their sensory sensations are so disordered, they do not realize they are hurting themselves.

Autistics usually have sensory problems and can be in a variety of areas. Pressure is a way to relieve sensory distress for those with autism sensitivities.

My children have sensory issues as well. My oldest is the worst of the two. His sensory issue can turn into violent tantrums, and usually takes a distraction or allowance to do something special to calm him down. As a young child we did compressions on his joints to stabilize his sensory issues. As for today he will not allow that to much, so I try to calm him with my voice and a back rub. A lot of coaxing comes into play as well. Sometimes, I wish we had sensory materials at home to desensitize their bodies: especially for homework sometimes, and getting them to do it can lead to a complete breakdown.

Some autistics use their sensory processing to learn how to interact with their environment just as a blind man would or a non-verbal child. Overly sensitive skin can also be a problem. Anything, certain things, or everything can provide a potential hurtful reaction. Wearing clothes of certain fabrics is one example. My oldest will not wear blue jeans or blue jean shorts, but he can tolerate soft fabrics only. My youngest does not wear sweatpants or long sleeve shirts. It is just to much for them.

Auditory problems can also be a big problem. Loud noises bother some and sooth others. Children with autism can appear to be deaf. While they respond to some sounds, they may not respond to others. Some are deaf to particular pitches and frequencies. Temple describes her own auditory and sensory problems from clothing to hearing issues. Losing her train of thought when distracting noises occur is a problem for her.

Scientific research studies have shown that rapid shifting of attention between two different stimuli is very difficult for people with autism. When Temple is listening to two different people at the same time she can only hear one at a time. She describes that a noisy room makes it hard for her to understand speech because she can not screen out the background noise. Her ability to process and attend to one voice against the background of another voice is severely impaired. The binaural fusion test showed that she had a distinct deficiency in timing sound input between her ears. To her words would sound like this: “woodchuck” became “workshop” , “doormat” became “floor lamp” and so on. Face recognition can also be a problem with autistics. Fluorescent lighting cause a sixty-cycle flicker that can create a severe problem with those with autism.

They also may have taste and smell sensitivities. Many autistics smell things since it provides more reliable information about what is around them in their environment. My oldest used to smell my clothes while my youngest smells teddy bears and blankets. Children with autism are picky eaters. Tolerating texture, smell, taste, and/or sounds of food in their mouth can be difficult.

Sensory mixing occurs in people with severe processing deficits, vision, hearing and other senses. They tend to have a hard time trying to figure out reality. Temple recalls not fitting in socially because she was not aware that her method of visual thinking and overly sensitive senses were the cause of her difficulty in relating to and interacting with other people.

Sensory integration is offered by an occupational therapist and can help most children with autism. Deep pressure and swinging calm and relax an over-sensitive child. They help to stabilize abnormal sensory processing and usually needs to be done everyday. Temple had designed the squeeze machine to embrace the body while delivering soothing pressure to the body.

Chapter four focuses on emotions and empathy. These have to be learned for autistics. Using her squeeze machine, Temple was able to hold an animal gently and also maker her a kinder and gentler person. As she describes, being held takes away negative thoughts. She believes that the brain needs comforting sensory input. Gentle touching teaches kindness. She tells of how she could sense a cows feelings and would touch them to calm them down. Her whole life were the animals that she made comfortable during procedures of all kinds. In order for the cow to stay calm, Temple had to as well. Pressure on the body teaches the brain how to be touched.

Autism is caused by neurological abnormalities that shut the child off from normal touching and hugging. Abnormalities of the cerebellum and the limbic systems may cause sensory problems and abnormal emotional responses by immature neuron development.

For some autistics, fear is a dominate emotion for them. Some childhood tantrums are not expressions of emotions but more like a circuit overload. Temple describes how fear and anxiety became her emotions, priorities, and how she overcame the worst. She only understands simple emotions, such as fear, anger, happiness, and sadness. She does not understand complex emotions such as loving one minute and hating the next in a relationship. She tells stories of different people with different emotional understandings. She explains how people need guides to teach them how to survive a social world.

In Chapter five, “The Ways of The World” is a story of learning the rules that come with that of surrounding environments. Dr. Kanner noted that an autistic person’s fixations can be their way to achieve some social life and friends. Autistic persons need rules because they concentrate intensely on how things are done. Temple uses pure logic to guide her behavior. Still even after college she needed the guidance of others, and luckily she had those. Temple has always strived for social skills, and determination is what kept her going.

Temple is a believer in biochemistry and describes in Chapter six. After years of anxiety and fear that caused havoc on her nervous system, she felt she needed to do something for it. She explains that by the time she was thirty her panic attacks were destroying her life and causing serious stress- related heath problems. She became desperate for help and the biochemistry she was interested in finally gave her some relief. Panic attacks and anxiety are very common with those who are autistic. It is said that half of high functioning autistic adults have severe anxiety and panic attacks. In this chapter she talks about the different kinds of medicines that can be used and the results that have occurred.

In Chapter seven, autism and relationships are described. Temple has remained unmarried because she just does not understand personal relationships very well. She has learned that the autistic people who adapt most successfully in personal relationships either choose celibacy or marry a person with similar disabilities. Physical closeness is as much a problem as not understanding basic social behaviors. She describes other’s relationships and how difficult it was for them to maintain.

Chapter eight, “ A Cow’s Eye View” talks about her life connecting with the animals she works with. She had to get down to the eyes of a cow to really understand what and how they see. This helped her visualize how to design the equipment to keep the animals stress down.
Chapter nine is about an understanding of animal thought. “Many people have been fascinated by the terrific feats of memorization of savants. According to Bernard Rimland, of the Autism Research Institute in San Diego, approximately 9 to 10 percent of people with autism have savant skills.” Savants can be impaired in socializing, but can remember incredible amounts of information. Their memory skills exceed those of normal people, but their cognitive deficits are great. When a savant’s concentration is locked onto one thing, it is difficult for him or her to switch their attention. Temple describes how animals “think” and generalize about their surroundings. Temple says, “ When a well-respected animal scientist told me that animals do not think, I replied that if this were true, then I would have to conclude that I was unable to think. He could not imagine thinking in pictures, nor assign it the validity of real thought. Mine is a world of thinking that many language-based thinkers do not comprehend.”

Chapter ten talks about the link between autism and genius. "In the Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, Sukhdev Narayan and his colleagues wrote that the intelligence and educational achievements of the parents of an autistic child with good language skills are often greater than those of similar parents without any autistic children. Three different studies reported in the Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders and one in the American Journal of Medical Genetics indicate that there is a relationship between autism and depression, or affective disorder in families. Mild autistic traits often show up in the parents and relatives of children with autism."

Another study published in the Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, by G.R. Delong and J.T. Dwyer, indicated that over two thirds of families with a high- functioning autistic child had a first or second degree relative who had Asperger’s syndrome, the mild form of autism. People with autism run a greater risk that others of having a child with autism. Learning difficulties, or developmental problems. Family history studies by Edward Ritvoe and his colleagues at UCLA have shown that the siblings of an autistic have almost no increased risk of having an autistic child, although they do run an increased risk of having children with learning disabilities or mild autistic traits. Many researchers speculate that the cluster of interacting genes may cause a variety of disorders such as depression, dyslexia, schizophrenia, manic depression, and learning disabilities.

Chapter eleven: Religion and Beliefs a Stairway to Heaven. Temple describes her beliefs in this chapter. She writes in her journal, “ I develop my views from the existing pool of knowledge and I will adapt my views when I learn more. The only permanent view that I have is that there is a God. My views are based on the basic fundamental laws of nature and physics that I am now aware of. As man learns more about his environment I will change my theory to accommodate the knew knowledge. Religion should by dynamic and always advancing, not in a state of stagnation.” June 14, 1968. With the Stairway to Heaven completed on September 9, 1974, she wrote, "I believe that a person goes on to somewhere else after they die. I do not know where. How a person conducts themselves on Earth during their life will have an effect on the next life. I became convinced that some sort of an afterlife exists after I discovered Got at the top of the Stairway to Heaven. The Swift Plant (cow plant) was a place where beliefs were tested in reality. It was not just intellectual talk. I watched the cattle die and even killed some of them myself. If a black void truly exists at the top of the Stairway to Heaven then a person would have no motivation to be virtuous."(September 1977)

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In 1994, Marlene Targ Brill wrote a book called, "Keys To Parenting The Child With Autism". This book provides valuable information about autism throughout a person's life. A really great handbook to have even though it is an older book.

Understanding autism is very difficult. Each child/adult is unique in his/her own way. Obtaining a diagnosis can be very difficult since autism can overlap or mimic other disabilities. You may encounter numerous professionals just to even get a diagnosis. Professionals such as a pediatrician, pediatric neurologist, psychologist, child psychiatrist, sppech and language pathologist, and an audiologist.

Adjusting to a child with autism can seem difficult at times. Your feelings are everywhere, and then you have other children, parents, in-laws, and complete strangers. What a roller coaster ride that can be. Over time we learn how to cope with these situations of difference.

Building a support team is a major role in your child's well being. Once you have a diagnosis, your child's needs become educational needs. Be informed about autism and finding people who go through the same things you do. Search for professional support. It has worked wonders for our entire family. Alert your day care about your child and his/her needs as well. Working with the medical community can be daunting. Just be patient with them.

Your child's overall health is very important. Medication and diet may be needed. Children develop in their own unique way and at different stages. A child's milestones are very important when it comes to diagnosing autism. I recommend that every new parent to keep a record of these just in case your child is one of 150 diagnosed with autism. Autism has a variety of mental abilities from mental retardation to extraordinary skills such as a savant who can accomplish great feats of memorization. IQ scores are used in determining mental abilities. Helping your child progress is the best gift you can give. Support and love them eternally. They need your ultimate love and care. Become involved in your child's progress. Your child has the legal right to a free education. You have parental rights, a school assessment, IEP's, early intervention and preschool.

Having older children with autism is something I admit I know little on. Teaching the ways of adulthood is another often difficult task. Developing friendships, adolescence, working adults, housing, and government help are all explained in the book. My children are still in elementary school so I still have much to learn on this subject.

Keys To Parenting The Child With Autism is a wonderful self-help book that is sure to expand a young learner of autism knowledge. It is an older book and still holds great information on exactly what autism consists of. I hope that you will enjoy this book as well. The book in the picture has a different cover, but it is the same book. It is at a good price at Amazon. Click on the link above for ordering purposes at Amazon.com.

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MyLife People Search

MyLife is a wonderful place to find people whom you have been searching for perhaps for years. Maybe you are looking for that special someone, a friend or lost family members. With MyLife, I was able to find many of my friends and relatives that I have lost contact with. My best friend in high school was easy to find using MyLife. It is FREE to join and very easy to use. All that you need is their name and approximate age to get search results. The search results are amazing and I am sure that you will be pleased as well. I encourage you to try MyLife for yourself and see who you can find today. They will search over 750 million sites for your lost loved ones, and even notify you if someone is looking for you. That is something that I enjoy having in a search website. Being notified about your name search is important in a lot of ways. Please try MyLife today and get started on what you have been missing. I guarantee that you will find something that you are looking for in this website. Hope that you visit soon and enjoy the features that are offered.

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Back And Ready To Go

Well friends, it has been about eight months since I last blogged. Sorry to keep you all waiting. We are all doing fine and dandy here. The boys are enjoying the 3rd and 1st grades. They are doing well, making A's and B's. We had lost our mental health therapist for Eddie. She did work with Devin for a year as well. We have known her for three years and will miss her greatly. The boys behavior has been pretty good considering that they are not on any diet of any kind. Our major concern is the ADHD, but we have been able to distinguish the difference between there ADHD symptoms and autism symptoms. I guess that we had a good summer. It was long and seem to drag on forever. We did not do much, except sit around the house. We are hoping that next year will be a better year for us. My husband will be graduating college in May and will have a degree in computer programming technologies. We are hoping that he will be able to find a good steady job after he graduates. He has worked hard on his degree and I am very proud of him. Well, I hope that you will keep reading now that I am back to take on the world of autism again. See you all soon!!

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Still Around

>> Monday, June 29, 2009

Hello friends, thought that I would let everyone know that I've been out of "work" on my blog lately, but I am expecting to get back with this come October, 2009! Thanks for reading and I'll see you all then.


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